Some things I’ve written that I’m most proud of have been for honoring others… a few wedding toasts, thank you letters, a eulogy and a rap for my dad’s 60th birthday.
There’s something about putting into words how much someone means to you or what their life at that moment represents, that is so special.
Give it, get it, collect it
One of my friends calls it a “Smile File”. A collection of great things people have said or written about you. Keep them close, especially on the days where you feel a little down and read them for a pick me up. It works. It not only makes you feel good, but it’s a way to focus on the things that you do well. It gives you a glimpse of how people perceive you and the impact you make on them. Hang on to the ones that really resonate.
Now, return the favor. Share the good things you like about someone. Whether it’s a compliment on what they are wearing, how they handled a situation or a funny poem or song. It’s fun. If you haven’t done it, give it a try. Start with a friend or family member.
When we spend time expressing to each other what we admire and appreciate, it creates a wonderful energy.
In honor of…
It doesn’t have to be a special occasion, but that’s a good place to start. With my love of celebrating birthdays, and with my dad’s birthday this week, I was reminded of a rap I wrote for his 60th. “In the Heights” was playing in the background at the time and I was inspired to write this:
It’s a Wonderful Life
Lights up on Tim, it’s your life in a little ditty
so let’s get the car started, here we go, a trip down memory lane just enjoy the show…
Made in Detroit, he’s got motors on his mind, but don’t stereotype he’s a one of a kind
Born Aquarius in the year of the Tiger, he’s honest, loyal, sensitive and kind, original, inventive means he’s gotta find out how things work just what’s inside he’s taking things apart in his spare time
The Motor City is gettin’ gritty. He gets his hands dirty and jumps right in, learning everything he can cause he’s got a plan. E. Timothy, a graduate of Mackenzie, a Lawrence techie and a P.E., Professional Engineer to you and me
Street smarts, car starts and he’s on his way, to a brighter future, the American dream; he’s settling down in the W.B…. Be bop a lu la , she’s his little lady, wait her name is Gail and she drives his heart crazy. For many years, through laughter and tears, settin’ the example to raise a family, marriage and what a happy home can be. A husband, father and now Paw Paw, see him play with Hudson makes me go awww…
He’s not a punk, not even a Zim, every one knows of the “Amazing Tim”. Grease monkey, gear head whatever you call it, if you got a problem, guess who’s gonna solve it.
Break it. Fix it. Jerry rig it.
American Pickers he’s got ’em beat. Just look what he found out on the street, the side of the road, the swap meet, the flea market. You’re not gonna find that at the local Target.
He’s in his Cadillac, throwin’ bottles back of Faygo, saying why don’t we go for a ride, wind in his hair, listening to Motown without any cares. Against the winds what Bob Seger says, but don’t believe it Tim, it’s only in your head. My how sixty years can fly right by, but don’t sit around and wonder why. Through all the joy, pain, happiness and strife, don’t forget dad, it’s a wonderful life!
What is the best way that you have honored a loved one in writing or in praise? Leave a comment below.
Keep the compliments and good energy flowing out there!